Want to gain self-awareness, assertive skills, confidence, and overall empowerment?
Hi! I’m Najmun
Psychiatrist and Empowerment Coach
I am a practicing psychiatrist in the state of New Jersey for last 23 years and a Certified Empowerment Coach. I have my own virtual practice in the state of New Jersey, and also run a podcast along with a social media campaign in Kashmiri, called Zehen, through which I raise mental health awareness in the conflict-ridden area of Kashmir, India, where I was born and raised.
I completed my medical schooling from Government Medical College of Kashmir, India, and my residency at Saint Elizabeth’s medical center, affiliated with the Tufts University School of Medicine in Boston, MA.
Dr. Najmun Riyaz, MD – My Story
“Two years ago, right before when the pandemic began I was working as a full-time psychiatrist in a local hospital, while at the same time caring for my family, three kids, and my elderly mother. Pretty much running on autopilot.
There was no time to take care of my own needs. No time to even reflect on what do I want? What is my passion? Of course, I knew my purpose in life is to raise happy, healthy children, but what about once my kids become adults. And they leave home. What do I want for myself?
Then the pandemic happened. I started working from home and realized how much time was being wasted in unnecessary conversations, advocating for my patients to the corporate world, and even commuting. I got to spent quite some time alone, while I started working from my home basement, on Telemedicine, pondering over what is more important in our lives? How did we get here?
I saw the stress my colleagues, bussinessmen, working moms, and general public in other fields were going through. I noticed how unprepared we are to handle adversity. Especially when it is of a magnitude as big as this pandemic.
I also started recognizing that many of us especially the ones who come from war or conflict-ridden areas may be struggling with some form of codependency traits, meaning; we are fixers. We like to fix things, which may be a nicer form of “imposing control”. But we mean well and in all this caregiving business, we lose sight of our own self, our own priorities. We become bitter, angry, annoyed, and constantly stressed. Then we have trouble sleeping, trouble relaxing. We blame our husbands, partners, and even children.
Due to our past trauma of having witnessed some horrendous events like crackdowns, bomb blasts, cross-firing, watching our friends, and neighbors being killed, or may be we come from backgrounds where healthy relationships were not modelled, parental conflicts were ongoing, family discord, abuse, or even violence inside our homes, chronic inbreeding toxicity, and so much more human suffering that we may have witnessed around us, and growing up in a part of the world, where these things were normalized, as we were in a survival mode. And that all my friends may have caused us to have generations and generations of trauma, which makes us anxious within. And this anxiety makes us go in a constant state of fight and flight, even when we know we are safe and away from that state. But as they say “ Our brain keeps score”
May be it is this trauma that may be the cause of us having some form of perfectionistic tendencies. It might have turned us into people-pleasers, where we have a hard time saying ‘ No’. we take up more and more on ourselves, until we feel, overburdened, and overwhelmed.
From the cultures, we come from, boundaries have no place.
We do quietly what we are told, cause confrontation makes us feel anxious.
But in reality, what we need is first to do some soul searching as to how we got here, and what to do, to regain back our power, our authenticity and integrity, and above all our inner happiness.
I want to hear from you all and take you on this life-changing journey, where through my knowledge of how our mind and brain work, and 23 years of experience healing clients with all sorts of emotional conditions, especially trauma-related, and coaching people from various backgrounds, various personalities. I will help you heal from your past wounds or hurts that may be coming in your way of being authentic, confident, and empowered.
With help of our inner power, we will find what works best for us. We will change the course of our life so that we can enjoy our work and that may mean making some serious changes. Some of us could be ready to make that change, and some of us, maybe not be there yet. It does not matter where we are on this journey. What matters is how we want our journeys to be from here on.
I am so looking forward to taking this journey with you and hearing more about you.”
Upcoming Coaching Session
Dare to Exist
It is a group coaching to empower, uplift, and support working moms born and raised in Kashmir and settled abroad on interpersonal, professional, parenting, and marital challenges.
It is an 8-week group coaching program for young adults of Kashmiri heritage born or raised outside Kashmir, to heal from the effects of Intergenerational trauma.
Disclaimer: Coaching does not replace psychiatric evaluation or therapy which may be needed in certain cases. Dr. Riyaz, through this site, does not provide Psychiatric evaluation or med management. She is licensed to practice psychiatry only in the State of NJ. If you are a resident of NJ and are looking for medication management or psychiatric evaluation from Dr. Riyaz, kindly click on “additional services”.
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